Gay boys are pretty boys who deserve to be appreciated for who they are. Our culture is much more accepting of girls who are tomboys than gay boys who like glitter. A child’s sexual identity is what it is. You can not tell a child how to feel, what to respond to or who to love. Each child has it’s own identity and no amount of force can change it.
Kids ought to be able to express themselves in loving and creative ways no matter what gender they associate with. Gay people have existed since the beginning of time. As a whole they contribute to the culture in valuable ways. The way in which they have been treated in recent history is unacceptable any longer. When there is no role model for a child to identify with the child inevitably feels invisible. Gay boys as well as all children are served when society as a whole includes them in stories, movies and education.
Gay boys come in every shape and size. They have every personality trait available to all people. Not every gay boy is overly feminine, but if they are that’s fine. The important message that a child should hear above all others is that they are loved no matter what.
Sexual identity should not be a factor in any adult relationship with a young child. All children need and deserve proper nutrition, emotional care, and physical stimulation. A child doesn’t even become aware of their own internal sexuality until the age of three. Social pressure to act in certain ways and like certain things that have to do with sexual identification influence children before the age of three. These outer influences are unnecessary. Young children who are raised with a balance of respect for both the male and female nature express who they are without fear of judgment.
Fear of gay boys keeps little boys ashamed and in the closet. The prejudice and emotions projected onto gay children confuses them because it comes from ignorance and propaganda. From religion to politics to the military to education there has been a massive campaign to neglect and punish the gay community. Things are beginning to shift, peoples minds are beginning to awaken and hearts are starting to open.
Children deserve to be respected no matter what their sexual preference or expression. Over or under reacting to a child’s desire to express the opposite sex is confusing and disorienting to kids. There is nothing inherently good or evil in being a girl or a boy. Love transcends all gender issues. If we start with love we will be in the best position to respond to our children’s freedom of expression as they grow and explore the varied aspects of who they are.